Misconceptions

I too thought there were certain steps to go through when grieving. I didn't understand all what I was thinking and feeling right after I lost my living nana. It made sense for me to put it in a certain process that was "normal". I felt I was allowed to grieve for a few weeks but was expected to suck it up quickly. I had seen people be praised for how strong they were when they acted like nothing had happened. My gut thought they shouldn't do that but my head reasoned it and accepted it, I wanted to be strong and I've always wanted to please people and pretend I was okay so as not to bother them.