Self-Focus and Roommates

I had a roommate scream at me and accuse me of being selfish. My whole life I have given, I always gave myself up. I was the do-gooder, the peace-maker. She moved in with me right after my nana died. I wasn't this selfish person, I was still the do-gooder but this time, I resented it. I resented my roommates for needing me. I didn't want to provide for them, care for them, clean for them and buy things for them anymore. I made this VERY clear and they hated me for it, so I moved out, and my last day there, one of them yelled, "YOU ARE SELFISH" and that hurt me so bad because I am not. I needed them and I needed to be taken care of so I could focus inward, but that opportunity never came and I became obsessed with being angry and creating schedules and divvying up responsibility because I didn't want to do it all. I didn't say, "I AM SAD! HELP ME! I NEED YOU! please take some of the responsibilities because I just can't do it anymore" I wished I opened up this way with them because perhaps they would have had I let them.